http://garyvaynerchuk.disqus.com/enThu, 19 Nov 2009 14:24:45 -0000http://garyvaynerchuk.com/post/78890831#comment-23558021<p>I have received lots of negative press in different forums related to my marketing niche. However, I have found NOT responding doesn't add any fuel to the fire. If I respond, people get the mob mentality and just start bashing.</p><p>Don't get me wrong, I get 100 times more positive press then negative...But the negative comes with it. I am sure you know what I mean Gary.</p><p>Now, I just leave it and don't respond at all. Then the threads slowly die out and don't grow at all. Thanks for the videos Gary, you rock!</p><p>- Jared</p>Jared_FThu, 19 Nov 2009 14:24:45 -0000http://garyvaynerchuk.com/post/78890831#comment-23555205<p>I love your attitude Gary! Have a DYNAMITE day!</p>weswyattThu, 19 Nov 2009 13:48:47 -0000http://garyvaynerchuk.com/post/78890831#comment-23543424<p>Hey Gary! Your Video sounds interesting and I guess the lack of know how to do that is something that drives most people form doing it! Could you elaborate! <br>Thanks :) </p>S S (brandbull)Thu, 19 Nov 2009 11:31:57 -0000http://garyvaynerchuk.com/post/78890831#comment-23542323<p>Why not? Perfect question, there is no good reason to not try! All the time! Thanks</p>jasonhawksworthThu, 19 Nov 2009 11:16:08 -0000http://garyvaynerchuk.com/post/78890831#comment-6363670<p>I completely understand. I am a college student and my part time job to pay the bills is as a server. Being a server is all about pleasing people. In a job like this you will see that there are regulars who come to eat at whatever restaurant you work at daily. Sometimes they come for just the food, but most of the time they come because of the service. Because they get to know the servers and build a friendship and a relationship with them. I know that you can't connect to everyone, but why not try. I do this daily. I want to get out there and help people become more socially involved.</p><p>Great points Gary.</p><p>Luke</p>Luke IrvinWed, 15 Oct 2008 11:53:51 -0000http://garyvaynerchuk.com/post/78890831#comment-6363669<p>Great commentary Gary...</p><p>Ringo Starr yesterday said as of October 20th he will no longer answer any fan mail; he's just too tired to do it.</p><p>...you can't please everyone simply because of sheer numbers. There's a point where it just becomes too hard. Math 101. But to approach service as if you can; excellent!</p>WebconomistWed, 15 Oct 2008 09:57:18 -0000http://garyvaynerchuk.com/post/78890831#comment-6363668<p>Instead of just saying "solid advice" as per usual as it is. I'd also add that when you meet some people "trolls, cynics etc" after you try and mend if it doesn't work you have to accept it as that's "them". They get off on not liking people; nothing you can do about that. Gotta go on and brush yo shoulders off!</p>BloggeriesWed, 15 Oct 2008 09:54:33 -0000http://garyvaynerchuk.com/post/78890831#comment-6363667<p>You know, it is very important to try to please everyone for the most part. There are certain exceptions I suppose when it comes to product and targeting certain buyers or audiences (because sometimes, it's done on purpose), but in an ethical/moral aspect, I feel like it should be an obligation. You, as a person should try to make everyone like you. Stop being lazy by saying, "you can't please everyone." Because, although, you may be right, a lot of time, it is in your control to determine that. It's been something I've been working on since I graduated from school.</p>Thomas EdwardsWed, 02 Jul 2008 19:30:49 -0000http://garyvaynerchuk.com/post/78890831#comment-6363666<p>Great video post Gary Vee. Completely agree that at some point many have lost the will or desire to try to please. Certain businesses have it in their brand and their DNA but many others you can see do it simply because it increases the rating on Get Satisfaction surveys. I'm sure this extends to the individual as well.</p><p>Always strike a balance between pleasing others and being yourself. But the effort is critical, that is for certain.</p>Lou PagliaSat, 17 May 2008 20:26:44 -0000http://garyvaynerchuk.com/post/78890831#comment-6363665<p>and you do a great job at it my friend.</p>ClintusWed, 14 May 2008 00:14:06 -0000http://garyvaynerchuk.com/post/78890831#comment-6363664<p>You really can't please everyone. I've tried endlessly to help a friend of mine who doesn't want help, yet she continues to push my buttons. I'm as patient and accomodating as possible. Got her a job, listened to her endless B.S. I've opened up more to this person than I have for anyone and it has gotten no where.</p><p>Why not try? Because unless you're extorting millions out of them, like in a business, there really is nothing but aggravation.</p>JoeSat, 03 May 2008 01:13:35 -0000http://garyvaynerchuk.com/post/78890831#comment-6363663<p>It's amazing what a difference being open to criticism can be and what having an open conversation can do. It is such an important and undervalued skill, as is the ability to give criticism articulately. People can be very shy about giving criticism, especially when it is to people in power... not politicians, but folks like doctors, folks that exercise direct power and influence over us. And they suffer for it.</p><p>I will never forget writing a lengthy letter to a medical specialist who I felt humiliated by... it took me a year to get to that point and to express myself articulately without anger. It was so scary, made me feel so vulnerable. And the doctor rang me the evening it arrived in his office. He'd read it in the morning, thought about his communication style and been really conscious of it throughout the day before ringing me and we were able to have a constructive conversation about what went wrong and how it had gone wrong for other people I knew as well.</p><p>As you can imagine my opinion of that doctor improved substantially and a wound that I had been carrying was washed away. If he'd said well I can't get it right all the time (and we are all human) I would have had a very different opinion.</p><p>It's so important to have the conversations and find out what went wrong for people. Even if you can't fix it being open to the conversation can make a profound difference. Genuinely trying to understand and acknowledge can go a long way to healing breaches, improving practices and pleasing a lot more people.</p><p>It's important for any organisation and any human being.</p>Liz ArgallTue, 29 Apr 2008 03:00:02 -0000http://garyvaynerchuk.com/post/78890831#comment-6363662<p>Some are not receptive, they only look in a mirror. Feel secure in your efforts. Those that care will respond in kind. Those that do not, Lose.</p>kennySun, 27 Apr 2008 01:01:12 -0000http://garyvaynerchuk.com/post/78890831#comment-6363661<p>Provocative idea - and I totally agree w/ the personal brand comment; and it is a game at the end of the day. That said - It is a fools game if you engage with this game under the impression that you can/should/might be able to please everyone. There is something to be said for effort - for reality checks - for building bridges rather than burning them, but occasionally you reach a point w/ another person where it becomes INSANE to keep trying to "please" them.</p>Ted VaughnFri, 25 Apr 2008 09:25:05 -0000http://garyvaynerchuk.com/post/78890831#comment-6363660<p>that's why i've REALLY cut down on my profiles online. i don't WANNA be in the game.</p>espressokevThu, 24 Apr 2008 21:05:24 -0000http://garyvaynerchuk.com/post/78890831#comment-6363659<p>you can please everyone, some just don't know that their beeing pleased...</p><p>Share with the ones who want, and the ones who dont.. (... Like it or not)</p><p>Not a lot of words, but it makes sense thou, if you give it some time to settle !</p><p>Best regards</p><p>Zune !!!</p>ZuneThu, 24 Apr 2008 18:32:46 -0000http://garyvaynerchuk.com/post/78890831#comment-6363658<p>I think it's always been a fundamental goal of mine to try to please everyone. In my experience though, because I'm not the most charismatic person out there, I've had to go about doing that through some pretty extraordinary means.</p><p>I've had to make things right. If someone had odds with me, I always made it a point to address that aggressively. Sometimes that person needed an apology, sometimes I've had to clear up a miscommunication.</p><p>I think there is a point where you do everything you can, try as hard as you can, bleed and sweat to correct a bad situation, but ultimately that person is going to choose or not like me.</p><p>The people that do bleed and sweat for their customers, like you will have a very few, if any, haters out there.</p><p>Good advice, thanks!</p>mlewis106Wed, 23 Apr 2008 21:21:49 -0000http://garyvaynerchuk.com/post/78890831#comment-6363657<p>Gary! Would you be able to write a quick guide for internet video beginners? What camera to pick (something cheap for first trials), what software and finally where to host it? You have got a vast experience and I can't imagine asking somebody else.</p><p>Thanks!</p>Paul Montwill | SwitchStories.Wed, 23 Apr 2008 09:13:24 -0000http://garyvaynerchuk.com/post/78890831#comment-6363656<p>totally true. like many other commenters have said that has been a statement that most people just shrug their shoulders too, instead of thinking about it.</p><p>thanks!</p>Sasha FornariWed, 23 Apr 2008 00:01:43 -0000http://garyvaynerchuk.com/post/78890831#comment-6363655<p>I agree with most of what you have to say, very well said. There are times though, especially with personal matters, where you just can't be it all for everybody. Some people just can't be reasoned with no matter how hard you try. Some personalities just don't mix. I have personal experience with this. That said, these cases are the minority (at least they have been for me) and it is genuinely worth the effort to reach out to people and show them what you are about and how you can be a part of their lives.</p>Tyler HeibeckTue, 22 Apr 2008 20:13:14 -0000http://garyvaynerchuk.com/post/78890831#comment-6363654<p>Hi Gary,<br>I think too many people dismiss the fact that our cosmos is built on TWO energies. Positive and negative.<br>Nothing would appear or happen without the two opposing poles causing friction.<br>(Ask any physicist).<br>You give out positive vibes. It's what you're about. You can't help it, as with most of the people who show their appreciation towards you. (And there ARE many).</p><p>Sadly, the opposite is true. Those who give out negative vibes also can't help it, and they see YOU as a threat. A problem to be dealt with at all costs.</p><p>Being high profile is something you've chosen to do, and good for you too. BUT! You are going to be taking more pot-shots than the rest of us who play life a whole lot safer.</p><p>The world needs people like you, so good luck, and I wish you well.<br>(Even though I have a condition that means I can't drink wine)</p><p>Pete.</p>Pete MoringTue, 22 Apr 2008 17:44:07 -0000http://garyvaynerchuk.com/post/78890831#comment-6363653<p>Stephen Covey pointed out that people needed to be looking for the win-win scenarios. Not that we can be everything to everyone, but that we all need to understand what it is we truly need, and not just want. So many times people become unhappy with us because they don't look beyond themselves. They are only looking out for what they want, and not what puts us in that win-win environment.</p><p>I think it's great that you approach people that are unhappy with you. What's the success rate in changing attitudes? Are the causes misunderstanding, or just not liking things you do?</p><p>I guess I'm like others, and don't really seek out those that have decided something is wrong with me or the way I do things. I always feel like if you want me to change on something, then tell me, after all we can be adult about things. It doesn't mean I don't try in every relationship to do the right things. And even in doing the right thing sometimes people won't like it. If I have to choose between pleasing someone and having their respect, I would much rather have a persons respect for being principled and doing the right thing.</p>Lynn FTue, 22 Apr 2008 15:25:13 -0000http://garyvaynerchuk.com/post/78890831#comment-6363652<p>I think @mattwarren has it right-on when he says, "I think over the years the business expression 'you can't be all things to all people' (specifically from a marketing/positioning standpoint) and the 'you can’t please everyone' concepts have gotten horribly mixed up."</p><p>I think the point Gary's getting across in all of these videos is that first point: you can't be all things to all people. You've got to know what your personal DNA is and be true to that. But you can try to please everyone, and I think you can please everyone, to one extent or another, if you are an honest human being and you treat everyone else that you encounter as a human being. Listen: as a die-hard, hard-core NE Pats fan, I never thought I could watch Gary with his Jets pail every day without getting very angry. But, y'know what? I respect the dude because he is a good human being and because there doesn't appear to be anything fake about him.</p><p>That make sense? I'm not sure if it does, but I gotta run for now.</p>ChrisClarkTue, 22 Apr 2008 15:06:02 -0000http://garyvaynerchuk.com/post/78890831#comment-6363651<p>Absolutely right. You are your own brand. Gary, I think people should change the phrase "Can't please everyone" to "please as many as you can!" Then people can stop focusing on their inabilities and start focusing on their abilities. Of course this doesn't stop here. It goes for everything in life.</p><p>My personal slogan is "Turning my weaknesses into my strengths"</p>BlantoniousTue, 22 Apr 2008 10:39:49 -0000http://garyvaynerchuk.com/post/78890831#comment-6363650<p>One more thought to add to all the other great posts - Mother Theresa, with all the good that she did, also had critics (see Wikipedia)...and she certainly wasn't out to "please" everyone, just do right by everyone. And isn't that what you're doing?</p><p>As an artist, I don't worry if my work resonates with everyone because if I did, it wouldn't look like who I truly am inside - art comes from the soul. So here's a favorite quote of mine:</p><p>"Pay no attention to what the critics say; no statue has ever been erected to a critic."<br>- Jean Sibelius</p><p>So just be yourself and the rest will work itself out. Everyone else has already said it... Be original, not a crowd pleaser. We love you for YOU.</p><p>xxoo<br>B</p>Brit HammerTue, 22 Apr 2008 04:15:27 -0000